I was thinking that the title of this blog could be seen as obvious or veiled. Can we really still move upwards in growth if we’re still holding on? I think in view of the need to maintain our balance in this world of emotions and thoughts, part of us will always still be touching an experience that happened to us, good or bad. The problem might that the memory of the experience is still attached to negative emotions. Is that why we continue to manifest the same situations and interactions in our life?
Over the last couple of years I’ve been using the Sedona Method (a technique for emotional releasing) with varying frequency and the premise is that we can free ourselves from wanting into having if we just let go of the resistance that surrounds desires. I can honestly say that the method helps tremendously with moving into a state of acceptance and is accompanied by a feeling of freedom. I admit with my current situation, sometimes I resist wanting to give up my feelings and some attachment exists to them that I haven’t been able to address. Why do we not do the things we know can make us feel better? Is it really more work to change or improve or is it actually harder and takes more effort to hold on to our perceptions, images and behaviors and avoid self-examination like the plague?
I know that I don’t want to spend all weekend or my free time contemplating my life and relationships. That is exhausting. But I do know that at some point in my younger years I decided that I really wanted to be the best me I could be. I found out quickly that this meant soliciting and listening to feedback I got from those around me- negative and positive and trying not to personalize what the messages were. What a challenge that is! I knew that reading, improving the avenues of information (media, TV, movies) I gave my attention to and finding more meaningful friendships or improving the ones I had were necessary venues for learning. I knew that finding love and using the experience with the other person would be a great way to learn more about myself and how to open more. My friend pointed out to me that most people don’t approach relationships this way. I don’t know if that’s good or bad, but I certainly know it’s what I wanted. I finally got that loving relationship and for that I am so grateful. For the most part, I let go of my ideas of what it should be and just let it be. The romantic relationship didn’t last, but I also learned with greater understanding that if you do truly love someone, the love does. And the lesson that really got sent home to my heart, mind and every cell vibrating within me is that what I really would rather feel better than be right. I have chosen any suffering I’ve experienced in the past few weeks, even if at the time I didn’t feel any freedom in the choice. I chose to cry or not, chose to feel lonely or not, chose to feel love or be closed off. I wouldn’t take back a second worth of the pain I experience now for any of the time I had with him. Experiencing the love was worth it, loving him was worth it, he was worth it.
Over the last couple of years I’ve been using the Sedona Method (a technique for emotional releasing) with varying frequency and the premise is that we can free ourselves from wanting into having if we just let go of the resistance that surrounds desires. I can honestly say that the method helps tremendously with moving into a state of acceptance and is accompanied by a feeling of freedom. I admit with my current situation, sometimes I resist wanting to give up my feelings and some attachment exists to them that I haven’t been able to address. Why do we not do the things we know can make us feel better? Is it really more work to change or improve or is it actually harder and takes more effort to hold on to our perceptions, images and behaviors and avoid self-examination like the plague?
I know that I don’t want to spend all weekend or my free time contemplating my life and relationships. That is exhausting. But I do know that at some point in my younger years I decided that I really wanted to be the best me I could be. I found out quickly that this meant soliciting and listening to feedback I got from those around me- negative and positive and trying not to personalize what the messages were. What a challenge that is! I knew that reading, improving the avenues of information (media, TV, movies) I gave my attention to and finding more meaningful friendships or improving the ones I had were necessary venues for learning. I knew that finding love and using the experience with the other person would be a great way to learn more about myself and how to open more. My friend pointed out to me that most people don’t approach relationships this way. I don’t know if that’s good or bad, but I certainly know it’s what I wanted. I finally got that loving relationship and for that I am so grateful. For the most part, I let go of my ideas of what it should be and just let it be. The romantic relationship didn’t last, but I also learned with greater understanding that if you do truly love someone, the love does. And the lesson that really got sent home to my heart, mind and every cell vibrating within me is that what I really would rather feel better than be right. I have chosen any suffering I’ve experienced in the past few weeks, even if at the time I didn’t feel any freedom in the choice. I chose to cry or not, chose to feel lonely or not, chose to feel love or be closed off. I wouldn’t take back a second worth of the pain I experience now for any of the time I had with him. Experiencing the love was worth it, loving him was worth it, he was worth it.
If you’re going to be in control of your thoughts you really have to be on it! Is it a half second or a milli before you head into a death spiral of negative, poverty thinking? It could very well be. But there’s always an opportunity to pull up through a smiling baby or friendly colleague, a vibrant red tulip, 9 out of 10 green lights on the way home, or a delicious meal. It may not always open the space needed to feel much better, but any half step out of a personal hell is a progress and a good direction to follow.
